Let's be blunt

“Friends”, come in many sizes, styles, and colours. I know, I know, they aren’t objects but friends are all so different. Some may even smoke weed, drink alcohol, and go on crazy adventures, to have fun. Perhaps they do all of the above, but you personally may only do one or all of the above so the question here is, “What attracts you to a potential friend”? Psychologically speaking, I think it's the initial physical attraction to one another that engages you to that person, then after speaking with them, you might feel the need to want to get to know each other going further.  Does it really matter if they smoke weed but you don't? Or that they drink to get intoxicated? Honestly, I think a friend becomes someone who makes you feel good period!! Those who encourage laughter and can maintain good conversations. And the conversations that I’m talking about are the ones that don’t include talking about other people behind their backs, those are friends you want to call a friend. Don’t get me wrong, I know close friends are those who you can confide in and share secrets with but that is earned with time as you get to know one another further, don’t you think?  We all look for friendships in different ways. Maybe you aren’t the type to want to hang out with those who get high all the time or drink too much. Nothing wrong with that, but I’m curious, What is a true, or real friend? Is it the friend request on facebook?

The majority of Facebook is a place where people do get to know one another on some level but it’s all behind a screen. Mainly its a place to market your business but it’s not a place where you want to get to know each other, at least I don’t think so! Friends “spend time” together. Both taking the time to share life and opening your schedule to engage, one on one. A relationship where reciprocation takes place. It’s not about taking turns. It’s more about ,making the effort and obviously it shows. Again, It’s with a person that makes you feel good. Someone whom you trust! Pretty sure that works the same way in a marriage. Which brings me to wonder, Should we be looking for friends that can potentially be a significant other. How did you find your mate? Essentially, we look for the same qualities in a husband or wife, don’t we? So, why not start out that way when seeking a forever friend. After all, its a commitment until someone gets hurt.

I want to hear your thoughts, What is a friend to you? How do you meet your friends? Do you think we should give our children guidance when choosing friends? Or is it up to them to figure it out? 

It’s time to get blunt! And no I’m not talking about smoking hollowed-out cigars with marijuana, but if you should need, then smoke away while you write me back your thoughts. 

Email me your responses at jl@confessionsofadomesticengineer.com and I’ll post them on my site. 

Your web friend,

JL